For the Girl Waiting

I wrote a pretty real post the other week about the single girl. Mainly about what is said to a single girl. Singleness is an epidemic in this country. It is stemmed from a wide spread allergy to commitments, standards, and responsibility. We are raising a generation of young adults to be self-focused and career-minded individuals forsaking the idea of marriage and forever. We don't bat an eye when all Billy wants to do is play his video games when he is 12. But give it another decade and your basement is now a rent-free zone for Billy to soak up his video games night and day and use what money he makes on more video games. For every Billy there is a Bob, Ted, and Tom doing the same thing. And for every Billy, Bob, Ted, and Tom there are dozens of girls touching 30 before "settling down" becomes an option.

To make sure people aren't confused by my clashing arguments I want to put it out there plain as day. I want to be married. I do. There is no way around that. I desire to find the one God designed for me to become one with my days on this earth. I desire to feel safe in his arms, cuddle up close, build a family, etc. Yet, here is the problem. Our surrounding culture makes those words very, VERY difficult to say. Why? Because of my last post.

There is a certain guilt that is hung on a girl that desires marriage. It is almost hushed down as soon as the words exit her mouth. With reassuring throughs of the good humanitarianism work she could do or the gift of her singleness, just like that she is to ban the thought and press on that God is going to raise someone up and she isn't to even think of him.

Friends, I would be a liar if I said that I didn't think about him. At least daily. What he likes to do. Where he works. If he is thinking of me. The list can go on. But I don't say this. Why? Because I am not allowed to. Quotes like "waiting for him," or "praying for him" are looked down upon, in girls, because it's taboo. I read a post this week a friend posted from another friend. Her thoughts were valid and very true but she swung the pendulum the other way so far that she discounted the blessings that God could bring in the form of a husband.

I firmly believe our Christian culture desires to help girls not feel the utter consumption of their singleness with thoughts that I have addressed here and in my previous post. Even in the post I mentioned where marriage is to not hold back your ministry. But let's be honest. Despite our generation's leaning to be self-sufficient women capable of many things there are still a good handful of us that desire marriage. Beyond that, believe that God will one day bring it around.

So, to the single girl I say, Don't feel guilty for wanting to be married. Don't let it consume you either. God has a plan and if you are walking in obedience with Him step by step then you have no doubt that God will bring His plan to fulfillment in you whatever that may be. Don't put your life on hold, but do not, I repeat, do NOT let anyone talk you out of waiting for him. I do the things I do now because I want to honor first the Father but also him all the days of my life (Proverbs 31:12). I go, be, minister, love, teach, work, play etc. to glorify the One who made me.

I don't know what the Father has in store for me. Trust me, I have no idea. But He isn't far off. He isn't absent. He knows the desires of my heart. He has heard my requests. But, no matter how He chooses to answer, He is sovereign, He is all-knowing, and He leads and guides as He desires. What He holds in His hand may be a life where I never have mine held. Am I ok with that? I'll let you know. But I know that even if that is the case I pray that no matter what I would choose to honor Him, obey Him, still make my requests known to Him, and continue to walk in obedience to Him.